By Lynn Scheurell
There are those among us who have the unique presence that allows others to let down their shields and relax into who they are with ease. In that moment of connection, people know they will not be judged, feel safe on multiple levels and accepted for their being rather than their doing.
You know you’re experiencing this when you feel comfortable with someone, find yourself sharing what you didn’t plan to talk about and feeeeeel good after your connection. That experience will carry forward with you as you move through your day and you will likely find yourself attracted to spending time with that person as much as possible to retain that expansive feeling.
Conversely, if you are the person who transmutes the energy that ‘is’ through your presence to shift the environments and people around you into allowing their most juicy expressions, you do it without thinking about it. It’s likely that you are centered in your being and have a high degree of alignment between your inner and outer worlds.
As a business owner, it is this quality that people respond to when considering whether they want to work with you or purchase your product. (“I’ll have what she’s having…”)
If you want to cultivate your ability to be that person, here are three things you can do today.
1. Practice acceptance.
When you accept yourself, warts and all, you can accept others without judgment. When you practice something – anything – you give yourself the gift of getting good at it. The next time you have a judgment, negative thought or assumption about yourself or someone else, relax that thought and, instead, choose to emanate love and compassion. Allow that self-quality, person or moment to be exactly what it is rather than trying to change it into something else.
2. Reflect light from every source.
What you focus on expands. Light means both the energy of the sun (for example) and also moving through life without excess weight. A concentrated light becomes a laser while a diffused light is a warm glow. How you reflect light determines what you can see in the world around you. When you mirror light from your inner clarity outward, from and through the people you meet, soaked in from the sun, reflected in a smile, exchanged in fun banter with a stranger, you feel lighter… and so does your world and the people in it. Take in the light from where you find it and share it forward.
3. Be congruent.
Be the best version of yourself by aligning your thoughts, words, choices and actions in every moment. Consistency, follow-through and commitment build self-confidence and inner expansion, which creates the natural condition to create outer expansion of self and others. When you encounter incongruency in self or others, recognize that as an opportunity to live with a new level of integrity. You’ll know it when your inner experience feels ‘off’ – that is the misalignment causing a kink in your inner system. You (and others) are always doing the best you can with what you know. By paying attention to where you can be more congruent, you remove the façade, mask, persona or distraction and, therefore, gain access to new personal power for expansion.
As you consciously cultivate expansion, you are creating the conditions for a high degree of trust. When others can trust you, they can relax into connection with you. And that is the priceless value you can offer to others through your business.
© 2013 Lynn M. Scheurell
About the Author: Making the most of human nature since 1998, Lynn M. Scheurell is an authority for forward-thinking entrepreneurs who desire to create intentional business success by connecting the dots between inner and outer beliefs and business expression. Changing the world starts by understanding your motivations, inspirations and purpose; in other words, changing the world starts within you. Only then can you apply your intensity through strategic business models, systems and focused action to create conscious, and often dramatic, results. See www.MyCreativeCatalyst.com